something about cry.

January 15 [Tue], 2013, 16:13
妈妈说起我小时候非常爱哭,而且一哭就再也刹不住车。

初中里的同桌是位男生,印象里头几年,他爱欺负人。当时还是小组长的我们需要把作业提前做完给课代表检查,当时的数学课代表我忘记叫什么名字了,不过好像是姓张。在自修课上,他退了我最起码有2次的数学作业本,而且还没给个理由,作为同桌的他没有帮我好好的传回本子,竟然用丢的,见着作业本就这么飞出去了,气的一下子哭了起来。当时还真是小,一点儿的事现在想想都不知道有撒好哭的。可当时哭的还特大声,同桌就说我是假哭,按他的道理,真哭才不会出声音呢。于是,我就越哭越大声。因为这样,班主任被吸引来了终于。

这回换他哭了,班主任罚他一节课原位上站着,他真流泪了,并且像之前说的那样,哭的悄无声息。我就看着他哭,坐着看。

长大了,想想他的话,还真是带理。

现在,哭的次数是越来越少了。因为按照刹不住车的理儿来说,我一哭就得哭上个三四个小时,有可能待第2天再一想,又委屈了,继续哭。

这样实在太虚脱了,累的很。

General Education (全科教育)

September 09 [Sun], 2012, 20:37
We might meet lots of “teachers” in our life, the first is our parents. After growing up, we shall go to school and to start our school life, we will meet our school teachers. In society, we will have friends and colleagues, even the one unknown, you may find some advantages of them, thus, they will be called “teacher” also.

But, once talking about education, the first thought of the meaning of teacher reflected in my head is the scholastic teacher. I think the stage of the education in school is very important in one life. Parents might teach children how to be a good person, but in school, children will learn the comprehensive knowledges systematically. Traditionally, the normal education system in China is that one teacher teaches one course for students, for instance, the teacher who teaches you Mathematics will never teach Chinese. But, nowadays, there is a primary school in Nanjing, taking the lead in setting up the General education system. The teacher in charge of the class teaches students how to count 1 to 9, and, at the meanwhile, he also teaches students Chinese about “COUNT” (数数), this two Chinese characters seems the same, but the pronunciation is totally different. First one is tone 2 and the second is tone 4. After class, lunch time, he also teaches students to remember that we should feel grateful and we should help others if anyone needs help. I guess it should be moral education time. Maybe general education system exists abroad, but in China, this is the first case.

In my perspective, the difference between normal education and general education is the teacher, general education needs the teachers to possess extensive knowledges, and should have more patients than the teachers who are using normal education system, they need spending more time to take some refresher courses for self-improvement.

To my mind, general education system should be advocated, I think general education is much better than normal education. As we know, knowledges are interrelated, we should integratedly study the various subjects and then link what we learn via practice. However, general education system popularization seems not easy to achieve in China. On the one hand, we have to face the lack of the resource of teachers, most of the teachers have the specific skills or knowledges, but if they want to be a teacher using general education methods, the knowledges they mastered are not enough. On the other hand, not all the teachers will agree with general education, coz they have to put more time and energies into education. In addition, now the purpose of studying is for passing entrance examination, the education policy seems to ask students to study hard then pass the examination for entering into a famous university…Hence, It might be very hard to persist in pushing forward general education reform, but it’s really a good start to attempt at using the new education system. It will be a new milestone for education in China.

Nightmare

August 26 [Sun], 2012, 13:38
Grandpa died, I heard the news from my Grandma. To my surprise, when I was watching her face, I can find little sorrow, so did my Uncle. They acted like nothing happened, talked in a jovial mood with us just like what they used to do. I guessed that maybe Grandma hasn’t yet accepted Grandpa’s death or because my Uncle stayed here to accompany her, thus she has felt better already. Anyway, I don’t know the reason and was listening and keeping silence only.

I cannot recall my Mom’s expression anymore, only remember the scene when we left Grandma’s home and walked in the street.

I raised my head subconsciously, I saw the sky, it was blue, extraordinary blue, a few clouds were floating in the sky above us. What a beautiful day it was! The roadway was also blue like sea. The first thought flashed on my mind was like a saying.

“Do you know the reason why sky is blue?”
“It is because of the sea.”

Now I recall this scene, I feel something odd, coz as we all know, the color of roadway will never be blue.

Anyway, to be continued.

At the distant place, I found there were some clouds accumulating, like a column or a tower, Jesus! How giant the clouds were. “Maybe the storm is coming?” I thought. Then, I speeded up to go home.

Not a long time when we came back to home, the clouds were approaching the sky above us closer and closer, I became a little bit oppressive. “It is really a storm?” I was not sure about that, coz the color of clouds was white, not black. But I wished it is a rainstorm and could be coming soon, I firmly believed that heavier the rain could fall, sooner my melancholy could be driven away.

Suddenly, my mobile phone rang, more actually, the mobile phone vibrated, someone was calling me. I woke up and found it was just a dream.

It was just a dream, but made me tired. My heartbeat was accelerating and I felt very bad. I have no idea why I had such a dream, I don’t hate my Grandpa and I don’ want him dead. After 30 minutes’ adjustment, full 30 minutes, I came back to normal.

I remembered that I had a dream before, maybe one year or two years ago, it was about my Mon. As same as today’s dream, she was dead in my dream. When I woke up and found she is still alive. “Fortunately, it was only a dream.” I told myself.

Baby

August 25 [Sat], 2012, 19:46


I woke up so early today and I don’t know whether it is because of the heavy rain and loud thunderclap or because of my excitation. Bvcatty and I scheduled to visit my friend Apple today afternoon. Apple has given birth to a son successfully for a month, and now she is staying at her parents’ home temporarily for health adjustment. She is the first of my friends giving birth to a baby, I am really happy for her. Thus, as soon as I got up, I went directly to her home. On arrival, I found Bvcatty was already here. I found Apple feel better now, coz she can get off the bed for walking and also can eat daily foods (I saw her drink the milk tea and eat cake of 85°C……), I chatted with them for a while. After that, I asked Apple for taking a look at the baby. She took me into the bedroom and I finally saw the little boy, he was quiet on the bed, no blanket but one white towel covered his body, as small as a doll, so cute! His hand only can grip my little finger!! I cannot help touching his hand softly, how soft the skin is! If no one bother me, I guess that I will gaze fixedly on him one hour, or two hours…..I think this boy is very gentle, but to my surprise, he is not the one who could be easily dealt with. He need to eat powdered milk per 2 or 3 hours, and will cry louder if he find no one beside him, that makes everyone headache. Especially, his Mum Apple, she has very little sleep everyday. How terrible it is….

I really want to pay much attention to the household duties for those families who have little babies and toddlers. Because, I find almost husbands will do less when they stay at home, no matter they already have baby or not, no matter his wife is also a salary people, has her own job or not. Thus, I observed Apple’s husband subconsciously and found he only prepared powdered milk to his boy and in the rest of time, he sat down in front of TV, playing his football game……this scene made me recalled another friend, she is pregnant, but her husband is still indulged in network games…..I hope it is just my prejudice, not every husband would be obsessed by games, I think if they are willing to spend more time for taking care of their wives, no more melancholy of childbirth will be caused, Maybe. :(

Education methods

August 22 [Wed], 2012, 17:52
Today afternoon was shopping time with my Mon and I managed to buy some clothes for my friend Apple’s baby as gifts. When we were in the store, my Mom suddenly found she forgot to take the card and went back to home accordingly. So I was waiting for her and sauntered aimlessly around the store of the supermarket. Unconsciously, I stopped in front of the bookshelf and focused on the book《Tiger mother Amy’s book, battle hymn of the tiger mother》. I remembered last time I saw the TV program for interviewing with Tiger mother Amy, I have strong interest in her and her Chinese education style, but it is regrettable that I have had no opportunity to read her book till now, so I opened the book and started reading carefully.

Amy is an Asian-American, her husband is a Jew-American. They were all born in American and now became parents, they have two pretty daughters, the elder one is named Sofia, and younger one is Lulu. Sofia is a docile and smart girl. On the contrary, Lulu is very stubborn that is totally different from her elder sister.

As we know, in American, almost families and schools recommend teaching children by using free style which means they want children to find the real interesting things in life. American families emphasize children’s development of innovation abilities and society provides the proper environment as supporting. But Amy persists in using Chinese education method to educate her children when they were young, in spite of her husband’s opposition. She has an agreement with her daughters to indicate the prohibitions in girls’ lives.

Forbid her daughters to stay outside overnight
Forbid her daughters to participate in any school shows.
Forbid her daughters to complain the above prohibition. (cannot participate in school shows)
Forbid her daughters to watch TV and play computer games.
Forbid her daughters to choose the extracurricular activities they like.
Forbid her daughters to obtain the score lower than A in school.
Forbid her daughters to exercise any other musical instruments, except for Piano and Violin.
Forbid her daughters to obtain second in school except for sports and modern drama

According to Amy’s narration, for breaking the saying “wealth cannot reach the third generation”, she weighs and considers balance, then decide to use Chinese style to teach her daughters and think that her daughters will finally understand.

Free American style or strict Chinese style? Which one is correct? I guess one thousand of children have one thousand of education methods, no one is absolutely correct, people should go to find the methods which are propitious to themselves.

Paranormal phenomena

August 12 [Sun], 2012, 18:04
Yesterday afternoon tea time, I had a get-together with my friends. No doubt that we had some girls’ talks.

Jenny is one of my friends participating the get-together, she narrated some strange phenomenons happening in her life. She said totally four stories, here I am mentioning two of them.

“He is my father’s friend, his wife had died oddly.” She said “One day, she stayed at home alone. At evening, after taking a bath, she came out of the bathroom and fell on the bed without dress”

“Died?” we asked.

“Yes, next day morning, her husband’s father found her room’s light was still turned on, it was very strange. As usual, she never got up so early, then he opened the door and found her dead.” Jenny said.

“Do you know the reason?”

“Maybe there was a lack of oxygen? After whole night, her body became stiff.” Jenny continued, “The odd thing was that they found she brought her husband’s clothes instead of her own bedgown into bathroom. And, they also found the towel had been folded neatly on her bedstand and it was wet…”

“It is so strange! Why she folded her towel and put it onto the bedstand?” we asked.

“I have no idea also, and the oddest thing is that her mother recalled the night she died, the window always opened automatically in the midnight and she got up to close the window again and again and again. All the people said it is because her daughter wanted to go home, so she opened the window….” Jenny stopped talking, looked at us.

Whereafter, Jenny told the second story to us, this story is about Fengshui. Another friend of her father, he has an empty villa. Someone told him that this place is not very good, people do not get close with it as well. Surprisingly, one day, the bad news came, his underling committed suicide in this house without any reason. And! He wore the woman’s clothes. Not a long time later, an old woman also died in the nearby brooklet, so strange that nobody ever downed in the brooklet, because it is only around 40cm deep.

In this world, there are various strange things happening in our lives. But in fact, almost strange things were heard from others. Thus, we never know the facticity. That is indeed absorbing. However, sometimes, it also makes me afraid….

Empty glasses

August 05 [Sun], 2012, 13:46
Yesterday afternoon, I saw an ICS TV program, Nancy Merrill’s Minds of Millionaire. This time Nancy interviewed a famous professor from The Chinese University of HK Business Faculty to talk about the topic related to The Family industry. They pointed out two rich families, like the richest family of Li Ka-shing in HK, and Stanley Ho, be known as the king of gambling from Macao.

It’s very interesting that the professor expounded the reasons why the first generations were almost successful in their business territory, but the next generations might never catch up with their parents.

First of all, the elder generations spent their whole lives to do business, they accumulated fortune in both their business and social network. Once they are getting old, the sons and daughters might inherit their parents’ properties. And business could produce the fixed assets, like monies, companies, or houses, but social network could not be inherited, so they are totally different. Next generations ought to spend all their efforts to struggle for getting their own interpersonal relationships like their parents.

Secondly, elder generations are start empty- handed, like an empty glass, someone pours the water into it, and you can see the water in the glass will get higher and higher. But if the glass is full, that means the water will decrease day by day, like the next generations, they have already possessed some properties, even if they haven’t yet inherited all their parents’ properties. Sacrifice is the rule for obtaining. If they wanna get more, they might give up something first. Now here is the question: are they willing to give up something they already have?

I think the viewpoint is really attracting me for understanding success and the hardship behind the success.

Balance

August 04 [Sat], 2012, 13:44
I remembered that I liked to eat meat when I was a child, my Mum said, it’s because I am a “tiger”, but now I find that I am “rabbit”, coz I like eating vegetables rather than meats, it’s amazing that time could change one to another extreme, I think it is called balance. Here is the reason, because I ate too many meats in early years so that I would like to eat vegetables

As same as my study, I didn’t like the courses and my teachers in high school, I had no idea why I have to study, is there any significance for studying? I wasted all my time to stare blankly in my school life. Now, I have to reimburse the wasted time. That means I need to spend more energies and time to study. What a good example of balance…!

If you observe this world carefully, you will find such things happen all over your life, you will feel that’s really interesting. Look at the natural world, for weather, there is calm before the storm, it’s a balance. Look at people’s life, someone said again and again and again to his girlfriend that he indeed loves her, but actually he doesn’t, coz he speaks more does less. Someone works hard, even he ignores his health so that ills happen, etc. They’re also the typical samples of subtle balance.

I think everything has a balance, to find the key of the balance is really important.

Imitation

July 29 [Sun], 2012, 15:08
I loved composition when I was a student at elementary school. I always asked my Mum for help to buy the composition readers, I guess that reading and writing were my favorites at that time. But one day, In a Chinese testing, I got zero for my composition, and the score immediately caused my Chinese testing failed, it was really scary for me, coz I had confidence to get a high score for this testing. After class, I inquired my teacher for the reason. Unexpectedly, she said my composition was copied from others. I was trying my best to explain that I didn't, but no result. Afterwards, I thought about the reason, and try to find out the problem I missed.

In fact, maybe I did it unconsciously. At that time, the books on my bookcase were almost composition books, I might read those books and memorized vast majority of them subconsciously. From teacher’s perspective, it was plagiarism. But actually, I was only a child that had no sense of imitation.

Imitation is the reason of my failure, I have to admit it.

Now, look around the various failures in our life. For instance, failure for job-hopping, Study abroad application, language studying, even marriage. We could find the shadow of imitation everywhere. Maybe we haven’t yet been aware.

We should discover our own manners instead of imitating others. It’s the only way to avoid failures and continuously improve us to a higher level.

Swimming

July 28 [Sat], 2012, 15:06
Today’s topic is inspired from a movie, Arasi’s 《Life is hard だけど happy》.

One section in the film described that the leading actors made a joke that they attacked the boat and threw all the people into stream. At the moment, one thought flashed on my mind, why they did that easily? They did not worry about the persons who cannot swim? However, I stopped this stupid thought very soon, I quickly realized swimming is the compulsory course in Japanese school, maybe because Japan is an island country that they have to acquire swimming skills to avoid something happening. Upon that, everyone in Japan needs exercise for swimming in the very early years, I guess.

But, why Shanghai’s educational institution hasn’t set up such courses? Shanghai is also a coastal city. In my memories, only skating course was set up in my high school, it was interesting but useless. Assume the situation, if one day Shanghai’s surface is subsided, seawater surge into the city, will we survive by skating? Absolutely not.

However, we cannot totally rely on swimming to save us. If one giant wave comes to us, maybe all of us will vanish beneath the wave. Thus, it just means one of possibilities for survival by swimming.

As we all knew, in recent years, lots of tragedies were caused by natural disasters in China, we should take some measures to protect ourselves in advance.
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