April 28 [Wed], 2010, 7:33
Girls are like apples on trees.
The best ones are at the top of the tree.
The boys don’t want to reach for the good ones
because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt.
Instead,
they just get the rotten apples from the ground
that aren’t as good, but easy.
So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them,
when in reality, they’re amazing.
They just have to wait for the right boy to come along, the
one who’s brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.
February 04 [Thu], 2010, 17:45
When you put seed in the land,it does not become the tree
immediately, and it does not give fruits instantly.
Remember that your long-standing relationship
deserves at least so much time as one fruit tree to grow,to
give the flowers at first and then abundance of fruits of love.
For all that we need years, not weeks or months.
September 30 [Tue], 2008, 7:36
這篇專欄是我從報紙上看到的
我覺得對女孩子特別有共鳴
也可以讓我們反省一下 有沒有為說過的話負責任
說你做得到的事 - 素黑
太多人喜歡信口開河,尤其是為了取悅戀人
隨便說會做這,會做那,都是為的,我愛你
說時說者聽者都窩心,可是語言是有責任的承諾,
也是建立人際關係親密溝通的信任門檻
若需要用語言見證愛,不宜太隨便,不是語言的本身就是愛,
而是因為你即使不記得說過什麼,說時有沒有心
說後到底是否放在心上並不最重要
最重要的是聽者的心因為你的話而打開過,以為是流露關愛的誠信,
所以她會等待你兌現,會收藏好暗暗記住
可到最後原來你不是忘記了便是無法兌現說過的話,那就是傷害
不要怪對方為何還要記住那些瑣事,
你應該對製造希望又破壞希望的行為負責任
不能做的,沒把握能做的,不過是說說而已的,
你不是不可以說出口,必須說時請同步說清楚:
”親愛的,我是真心的,但所說的未必能兌現,可能做不到,但我非常願意能做到”
這樣便是負責任的承諾,對方聽了一樣窩心,但心裡有底
不會設美麗的期待,避免最後痛苦地絕望
這不是什麼難做的事情,只是對言行負上一點點真心的責任,
也是訓練自己,別太隨便應承,提議什麼,讓人白期待
世事難料,沒有任何人能百分百兌現自己的承諾或意願,
但我們可以做的,是坦白和細心照顧別人的感受多一點
這樣的話,情話還是可以非常美麗動人的
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